So, here’s the deal. I consider myself a feminist in that I believe women should be treated equally to men, and I strongly believe in body positivity for all people, male and female, and all body types. I think I’ve mentioned on this blog before that I, like every other woman, have issues with my own body. There are a few things I don’t like about my body, like my skin, which is prone to acne and dry spots and weird gross fungus sometimes (even though I’m a super clean person. How does this happen???). I also feel like my shoulders are too wide, and I wish my hair was less frizzy, and I sometimes wish my boobs were a bit larger (although that not nearly as much as I did when I was in middle school. Thank goodness).
However, this is not a post about what I don’t like about myself. What I do like is that I’m pretty muscular, as in if I actually went to the gym on a regular basis I could be ripped. I’m a pretty small person, and I also really like that for the most part (it does tend to get annoying when people think it’s okay to comment on my size because I am small. Update: it’s not. Just don’t comment on people’s size ever. It’s kind of rude). Also, the vast majority of the time, I love my small boobs because I can get away without a bra and with wearing low cut tops that would be too revealing if I were bigger. There are perks to everything. (Except maybe stupid skin. I really hate that.)
Anyway. I really started writing this post to say that I’m super thin, and I get quite a lot of comments on that. When I worked at a bank as a floating teller, it never failed that at every new branch I went to, one of my coworkers would comment on my size. It happened every single time. I even get comments from random strangers, usually women. It’s to the point that I know now that even though I’m not the prettiest person you will ever meet, my body can be the object of envy just because I am small and thin.
I have two main points here. One is this. I take nudes sometimes, just for myself, because I like feeling good about my body. The last time I did, I got the idea to take a version of these photos below. (I took these particular ones especially for this post.) In these photos, I’m sitting like I normally do in class or at my desk. (Obviously I don’t have great posture.) And even though I’m thin enough that a lot of people notice, I still have stomach rolls. See that? I pretty much live with red lines on my stomach from where it folds over when I sit down. It’s just a fact of life.
My other main point, that I tried to make rambingly a few paragraphs ago, is that even the people you see whose bodies you envy have things they don’t like about themselves and wish they could change. I see people every single day that I wish I looked like, both online and in person. I envy something about every single one of my friends. So this is just a general reminder, because I know we’ve all heard this before — the Internet is full of body positivity messages for women, which is awesome. This is just my reiteration.
My final three cents:
- First, you are beautiful.
- Second, everything you dislike on yourself, someone else has probably envied. Everything you have envied about someone else, they have probably disliked.
- Third, your personality, your brains, your skills, and your passions are what really define you. Not your body, ever.